Ten Truths About Recovery
Recovery. Where do I begin? We all have our own ideas about what recovery means and what we want our personal journeys to look like. But it doesn’t always go as we expect.
When I started writing this post at the beginning of the week I was feeling optimistic about where I was at but as I’m finishing this post today, my head is in a completely different place. And personally I really need these reminders right now. So for anyone else who needs it, here’s 10 truths about recovery that I have learnt along the way:
– It’s difficult. Recovery isn’t straightforward and it isn’t easy. There will be highs and lows. But this doesn’t mean it can’t be achieved.
– It can feel lonely at times. Sometimes it can feel like your stuck. The people around might expect you to be further along your journey than you are, you might even think this of yourself. This can make it really difficult to reach out when you are having a bad day, and ultimately leave you feeling alone. But you’re not alone. There are people who understand exactly what you are going through and want to support you. It’s okay to reach out.
– There will be set backs. There will be bad days but there will also be good days. There will be days when you want to give up but there will also be days when you are motivated and inspired. Be kind to yourself on the darker days and capitalise on the good ones, make them count.
– It takes times. There is no magic cure, it won’t happen over night. The amount of time will vary for everyone but that doesn’t matter, it isn’t a competition. It may takes months or even years but the main thing is that everyday fighting is day closer to brighter ones. Be patient with yourself and move at your own pace.
– The bad days don’t detract from your progress. A difficult patch doesn’t undo all the hard work that has gone before. No one can take that away from you. Take comfort in your achievements on your good days knowing that you can get there again. But in the meantime, on the bad days take a breath, show yourself some kindness and let those days go. Tomorrow is a clean slate.
– There’s no right or wrong way. There are no rules. Everyone’s journey is unique and your needs are likely to differ from other peoples. There is nothing wrong with that. Don’t feel pressured to do anything that you are not comfortable with. You are important and all you need to focus on is what is right for you.
– Sometimes you want notice a huge difference. Sometimes you won’t realise how far you have come without looking at where you have cone from. Every now and again pause and reflect on everything you have achieved, there is no such thing as small accomplishments. Everyone counts and is important. Allow yourself to feel proud because you have worked hard to be where you are.
– It is possible. There will be days when it feels too far out of reach. But take inspiration from those who have made it through knowing that one day you will too. You can achieve anything you set your heart on.
– It will be worth it. One day you will look back on this period of your life and feel glad that you kept on fighting.
– You can do it. I know you can
I wish you all the best with your recovery, wherever that may be. Keep fighting.
Until next time