The Difference Between Openness And Honesty

When I first started this blog my main value was to be honest. But somewhere in my head the difference between honesty and openness had become blurred.

I thought in order to be honest I needed to share every aspect of my myself and every corner of my mind. And in not doing so I was somehow being deceptive. But it’s difficult to be completely open because that makes us vulnerable, and I find that difficult. Being vulnerable scares me, I know it shouldn’t but it does. And for a long time I feared that I wasn’t being honest with you because I wasn’t strong enough to share every broken piece with you. But I’m learning now that this simply isn’t true.

You can be honest without being completely open.

I can be honest about how I’m feeling and what I’m going through without having to share every dark part of my mind that I’m not comfortable talking about. I’m not saying that you should keep everything to yourself or be afraid to open up. But I guess what I’m trying to say is don’t feel pressured to share things that you are not comfortable with. This will come in time, when you are ready. Be honest with yourself and the people you are close with. Reach out to them when you need help. But please don’t feel that you have to do anything that you are not ready for. Give yourself time, you deserve that.

I think I’ve come along a long way on this journey, it is gradually becoming easier for me to be open up on here and talk about the difficult stuff but I do still find this difficult at times. There are still certain parts of myself that I’m not yet ready to share but I hope one day I will have the courage to talk about them.


Next week I will be announcing a very exciting project that I have been working on for a long time, the Amazing People Project. I was hoping to share it this week but time has ran away from me. I don’t want to rush it and want to make sure it’s perfect before I reveal it, since I’ve been working on it for so long. So I really hope you will join me here next week to find out all about it.

But until next time, have a lovely week


  1. Sophie

    September 15, 2018 at 9:57 am

    I really like how you’ve written this post. And I completely agree with you, there is a difference between honesty and openness, there needs to be a balance that you are comfortable with!

    -Sophie xx
    Cherries & Perfume 

    1. Karlena Clifford

      September 21, 2018 at 4:34 pm

      Thank you! There definitely does need to be a balance. Thank you for reading xx

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