The Truth About Being Twenty-One

As the year is drawing to a close and I’m turning another year older, I’ve been thinking a lot about how I’ve spent my days. And I’m finding it increasingly more difficult, to not compare where I’m at in my life to other people the same age.

People have this image of what life as a twenty-one year old should be like. You are expected to be out there living your life because life at twenty-one is easy. But it doesn’t feel like that. I don’t fit this mould or expectation. Instead I’m the complete opposite.

I guess the truth about being twenty-one isn’t what everyone expects.

My path has been quite messy. I think somewhere along the way I may have taken a wrong turn, got lost in the undergrowth. Nevertheless, I won’t be lost forever, it may just take me longer to get there.

I don’t know what I want to spend the rest of my life doing. But that doesn’t mean I don’t have hopes and dreams. I’m in the process of building a life for myself and I’m not quite there yet. It may change along the way. But I won’t give up trying and I know I’ll make it in the end.

Some days the clouds are that little bit greyer, when the sun is hiding away. I guess I’ve learnt that life isn’t as easy as it looks. But these days will pass and I know the sun will rise again.

I may be young but I’ve felt a lot of feelings. Sometimes I’m ruled by fear- more than I care to admit. But every day is a lesson with which I gain strength and experience.

I haven’t found the love of my life yet, but that doesn’t mean I never will. Sometimes I think love will find you when you least expect it.

My ideal Saturday night is being snuggled in pyjamas, with my dog on my lap, watching TV with my family. Especially in these winter months.

I haven’t travelled the world but that doesn’t mean I haven’t seen true beauty.

I may not lead the life that people expect. But that doesn’t mean I’m a failure. And I’m starting to realise that it’s okay not to fit the stereotype. We have all take our own routes and that’s okay.

I guess the truth about being twenty-one is that there is no truth. There is no right or wrong way to live your life. There are no milestones or goals you should have reached by a certain age. Each and every one of us walks our path, with our destinations which makes us incomparable. Sometimes we need to live life at our pace.

Do what makes you happy!

Until next time



  1. Maya @ Powered Crowd

    November 26, 2017 at 3:16 pm

    I can relate to that. Being 21 can be a confusing time when trying to figure out where to go. But your last line ” do what makes you happy” sums it up pretty well. Being kind to yourself and others is key In my opinion. Happy early 22nd birthday!

    1. Karlena Clifford

      December 1, 2017 at 1:37 pm

      I completely agree with! Kindness is so important, you never know what other people are going through. Thank you so much!

  2. April Michelle

    November 26, 2017 at 5:45 pm

    This post is so relatable. I feel like I should be out partying and living my life like others usually do at this age, but instead I am travelling and/or snuggling on my bed with my laptop in hand writing. It’s okay that you’re not like the others, you are you. Being 21 is filled with confusion just like Maya said. I feel the same way. I turn 22 in April. Anyways, thank you for sharing this reflective post x

    April x

    1. Karlena Clifford

      December 1, 2017 at 2:17 pm

      It’s a confusing age but we have to live it the way we want to. Travelling and writing is amazing though. I agree with, thank you! x

  3. Amita K (@amerzwithlove)

    November 26, 2017 at 10:02 pm

    It’s crazy how relatable this is! Being 21 is a weird transition between being a child or turning into an adult. It’s such an indecisive time of my life but it’s okay because we’re still young and we’ve got the rest of our lives to enjoy. Loved this post x

    1. Karlena Clifford

      December 1, 2017 at 2:20 pm

      You are right, we still have so much time to do everything we want to. Thank you! x

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