It’s Lonely Feeling Alone
Loneliness is often assumed to only effect people who have no one. Someone who has no friends or spends a lot of time by themselves. And perhaps you would be right in thinking that. But loneliness can also be felt by people who are surrounded with lots of loving and supportive people.
Sometimes your own mind can be a cruel place which makes you feel alone and isolated even when you’re stood in a room full of people. It tells you that no cares or will understand what you are going through. It tricks you in to thinking that you’re a burden and better off alone which makes it difficult to open up to the people around you and reach out for the support you need.
It’s lonely feeling alone. And when that feeling takes hold it’s difficult to shake.
A never ending cycle which feels impossible to break. The more you believe that no one cares or that you are a burden, the more you withdraw. The more you bury your feelings, the more difficult it is to reach out. And ultimately the more alone you feel.
I know how this feels and I often withdraw as a coping mechanism-a way to pretend that everything is alright. I tell myself I’m doing it to protect the ones I care about so that don’t have to suffer.
But isolation doesn’t solve the problem.
In fact it only makes it worse. People say time is a great healer but when you’re lonely, time only makes it more difficult to reach out. Because when you feel like you have no one to turn to, that feeling of isolation only deepens.
But you’re feelings matter. It’s okay to ask for help. There are people who understand what you are going through and want to help you. You are not a burden and you are not alone.
Check in on your family and friends. Let them know you are there for them and want to support them. If you haven’t spoken in a while, ask them how they are doing and listen to their reply. They may have distanced themselves not because they want to but because they struggling and all they crave is someone to show that they care.
It’s lonely feeling alone, no one should have to experience that. And together we can fight it.
Until next time