Ten Little Reminders For The Difficult Days
This week has been difficult. The negative thoughts that tell me I’m alone and worthless and tear away at my self esteem have been on overload. I’ve lacked the strength to fight them and deep down all I wanted was someone to tell me that they were wrong. I guess that is what we all want and need sometimes- someone in our corner during the difficult days to reassure us that everything will be okay.
So, this post is for anyone who needs just that.
You are not your negative thoughts. Sometimes our minds can be our own worst enemies especially when they obsess over all our perceived flaws. But that doesn’t mean they are true and I know this doesn’t necessarily make this easier, but other people don’t see all the negative things we believe to be true about ourselves. You are so much more then these negative thoughts, it’s just hard to see it during the dark times.
No one is perfect. We are all human, we all struggle from time to time and we all make mistakes. Try not to compare your bad days to other people’s good days. I know this is difficult but this will only make yourself feel worse and create an unrealistic perception of how you should be. Perfect doesn’t exist and you don’t need to live up this unrealistic expectation.
Mistakes aren’t failures they are life lessons. Everyone makes them and that’s how we grow as people. You are not defined by your mistakes instead learn from them so that you can move on to bigger and better things.
Struggling doesn’t make you weak. In fact, it shows so much strength and bravery to keep fighting despite the difficulties you face. Every time you face a challenge you show strength regardless of your success. You are not weak and you will get there in the end.
If it’s too much today, then there is always tomorrow. Sometimes today is just not our day and that’s okay. You don’t have to face everything all at once, and sometimes it’s important to take a step back and just look after ourselves. Take the pressure of yourself today, there’s always tomorrow.
It’s okay to ask for help. I know this can be one of the most difficult things you can do (and is something I really struggle with) but people do want to help. They may not always understand completely what you are going through or necessarily say the right things but most of the time people have the right intentions. And if they don’t then this shows more about them then it does about you. It shows strength to admit when you need help and it can be huge positive step forward. But it’s also important to not feel pressured in to talking if you don’t want to- do it in your own time with someone you can trust.
You are not alone. Not matter what you are going through there will be someone who will listen and wants to support you whether that be family, friends, friends online or experts. You are never alone, always remember that.
You are beautiful. There is no one in the world quite like you and that is a beautiful thing. I know it can be difficult to see our own beauty but it is there. Be patient and kind to yourself and you will see it. I truly believe there is something special inside all of us.
You are enough just the way you are. You always will be. Don’t let anyone else tell you differently or change the way you are purely for the benefit of others. Never be afraid to just be you because you are enough.
Things will get better. You have survived 100% of your bad days so far, you will get through these difficult times. It just takes time. You can face anything that comes your way. I believe in you.
Until next time